Category Archives: advice

Hey kid, don’t get a ‘big head’

I read this article in The Mighty: 21 ‘Harmless’ Comments People Heard Growing Up That Affect Their Mental Health Now by Juliette Virzi. Of the 21, I recognized several that were used on me. Many of the 21 are real … Continue reading

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How I’m Doing Resolutions Differently as Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder (my latest column in The Mighty)

I believe trying to make New Year’s resolutions when you deal with any mental illness is tough; it can be especially tough for people with personality disorders like borderline personality disorder (BPD).What does the person with BPD want? Some of us may want any … Continue reading

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Tales of the office neurotic

I’ve had bouts of anxiety lately. I have no good reason – but anxiety never really needs a reason – sometimes it just presents itself. I don’t know whether it shows a lot – I have no idea what I … Continue reading

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I Don’t Know How I Do It

Do you ever just do something because you’ve been doing it all your life and know that you have to so even though you’ve grown to hate it, you do it anyway? Yeah, work. Having been a member of this … Continue reading

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I have a lot on my mind today. Although I have been working out and lost weight, I am experiencing periods of lightheadedness and shortness of breath doing light work, like waxing the car. I have a doctor’s appointment Monday. … Continue reading

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Sell it and they will come. . .

So many books! I should really write a book. This blog is intended someday to become a memoir. If it doesn’t, I’m OK with that. The writing is more therapy than anything. But the more I look for books on … Continue reading

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Well meaning advice and sick coping strategies

You have your coping mechanisms, I have mine. Post Script: HOW COULD I MISS THIS? It’s one of my favorite movies. Anyway, the subtitle for this piece should be: How I learned to stop worrying and love the bomb. The … Continue reading

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